Reality BITES!

After a breakup, this has got to be the question that is most often asked. And more often than not, it is the one who leaves that asks that question.

The right answer? A resounding NO.

Okay, well maybe it is possible – but it takes time. As long as you still love a person, as long as you have even the slightest bit of romantic feelings, you cannot be friends. Sure, at the moment you may feel like everything is okay…but let me tell you, the time will come when things will get all screwed up and it is going to hurt like hell.

It is really just an excuse to hold on to someone. It’s just a way of delaying the inevitable – that things are really over. In the long run, it just makes matters worse.

So it doesn’t matter how emotionally mature you think you are. It doesn’t matter what your reasons are for being “friends”. If you really want to move on, then no, you cannot still be friends. At least not yet.

Back when I was younger, my favorite saying was “Impossible is a word only to be found in the dictionary of fools.” It’s about time that someone revised that saying…and Adidas has aptly come up with that extraordinarily powerful slogan.

“Impossible is Nothing”. Enough said.

A while back I posed the question, “What is your greatest fear?”. This is the same question that Samuel L. Jackson repeatedly asked one of his players in the movie “Coach Carter”. The answer that his player gave him was this:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

It's a poem by Marianne Williamson, often mistakenly attributed to Nelson Mandela